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How To Calm Yourself In Stressful Situations
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Do you ever have moments or experiences that stress and upset
you? This article helps you develop a simple, ‘quick emergency’
response to calm yourself so you can deal more effectively with
the situation.
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How To Calm Yourself In Stressful Situations
Copyright (c) 2007 Bonnie McFarland
La Bella Via
http://www.labellavia.com
Has something stressful or upsetting happened to you recently?
Maybe it was a fender bender car accident, or telling a friend
she did something that hurt you, or being triggered by something
your spouse said, or stepping on stage to make a presentation.
Even when you are following what lights you up and creating more
of what you truly want in life, not every moment of every day
will be filled with ease, joy, and pleasure. Each of us has
moments, situations, and experiences that stress and upset us.
What can you do to help yourself during those times? How can you
calm yourself until you gain more perspective to effectively deal
with the situation? Use your personal 911!
What Is a Personal 911?
911 is the phone number we call in the U.S. when we have an
emergency and need help fast. We don’t have to figure out what
kind of help is needed or which number to call; we already know
if we have any kind of emergency, dial 911. The 911 dispatcher
sends the police, fire department, or medical responders; the
right help is quickly on its way. 911 is an easy and effective
emergency system.
What about when you have a more personal “emergency?” You
can’t call the community 911 system just because you’re
stressed, jarred, upset, anxious, angry, or afraid and want some
relief and help quickly. But you can call on your own personal
911.
Your personal 911 is a sentence, phrase or word you say to
yourself during trying times, something designed to ease and calm
you. Your 911 is simple and easy so you can use it anytime and
anywhere.
You choose it in advance and use it as your first, immediate
response when you are stressed and upset. No need to think about
it; as soon as you realize you need personal emergency help, you
just start saying it.
Your personal 911 will provide some quick relief, reducing your
stress and calming you. Once you’re calmer, you can then take
whatever additional actions are needed to help yourself and to
deal with the situation.
Would One of These Work For You?
I just used a personal 911 myself. I was meeting a friend for
breakfast and I had something to discuss that was difficult for
me. Anticipating the conversation stirred me up; I was agitated
and anxious, my mind was racing.
To calm myself, I used one of my personal 911s: “I choose
peace.” I kept saying this to myself over and over and over
again. I was able to shift some of my attention from the thoughts
that were upsetting me to more soothing thoughts.
Did it make my problem disappear? No, but I was able to become
much calmer than I had been. This felt better plus it allowed me
to have a more effective conversation with my friend than I would
have had if I’d been completely agitated.
Here are a few examples of personal 911s I and others have used:
* I choose peace.
* I choose love.
* I choose serenity.
* I choose joy.
* I choose love over fear.
* Everything is perfect.
* All is well.
* God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot
change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to
know the difference.
While you’re saying the words, you could also do a grounding
technique such as pressing your feet firmly on the floor, rubbing
your palms together, or deep breathing. Many people also add a
homeopathic aid such as Bach’s Rescue Remedy.
In Your Life
If you’d like to experiment with this the next time you’re
stressed or upset, here are some suggestions.
1) Choose your 911 now.
You’ve probably heard people say “I can hardly think
straight!” Science has now shown that, in fact, we can’t think
clearly under certain conditions. When you are flooded with
feelings and physiological stress responses you’ll have a very
hard time figuring out how to help yourself.
Have your emergency response prepared so it’s ready when you
need it. Then, in the midst of a stressful situation, you won’t
have to figure out what to do — you just start saying your 911!
2) Choose something that will work for you.
There is not a universal personal 911 that will work best for
everybody. Your most effective 911 will speak strongly to you: be
powerful and meaningful enough for you that it will calm you,
shift your attention, and switch your perspective. It may be one
of the examples above or it may be something completely
different.
3) Use it!
When you’re feeling stressed or upset, use your 911. Repeat it
over and over, like a mantra. If you start with the little
things, the stuff that’s mildly upsetting, you can build your
ability to use this in tougher situations as well.
Your personal 911 is a simple tool to add to your life toolkit.
You can quickly and easily call on it when you’re in situations
that challenge you. Using your personal 911 will reduce your
stress, calm you, and allow you to more effectively respond to
the situation.
Enjoy!
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Bonnie McFarland works with women at midlife who are restless,
stuck, or dissatisfied and wondering what to do with the rest
of their lives. Her e-book, “What Lights You Up? Your Guide
to Pleasure, Passion, and Purpose in Life,” as well as
“Light Matters,” her ezine with tips and tools for
getting more of what you truly want, are both available
free. It’s quick and easy to get these resources; just
go to http://www.labellavia.com
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